Most Men Have Problems With How to Approach Women
Most Men Have Problems With How to Approach Women
By Daryl Duke
Often, some of the best-looking and greatest-personality single guys out there are indeed great catches. Why are they single? It may come as surprising to learn that most guys are afraid to approach women and this is one reason why they are single. It may seem unlikely since a lot of these same guys are fine with women in general, but these women are likely introduced through friends, at social functions, or through work. Still don't believe the figures, then consider that most of these guys are considered great friends by all of the women they know! (Hint: most of them don't want friendship; they want companionship).
Why Are You Single? Of these single guys, question them why they are single and chances are they will not fess up and admit that they cannot approach women (and the term women refers to strangers or people they see in a bar, on the street, or elsewhere). In fact, most of these guys don't even know it themselves that they cannot approach women because, as humans in this day and age, we believe that love, or interested women, will happen upon us when the stars align and everything is "right." We can thank fairy tales and romance in the media for this!
Oh, The Excuses.... In reality, a lot of guys fail miserably when it comes to finding new women. Our insecurities rush to the surface and take control. We concoct a list that could stretch a mile long for why we should not approach women. Sound familiar? If not yet, consider the excuses: she surely has a boyfriend; she won't talk to me; she's too good-looking for me; she probably has a line of guys waiting outside her door at night, why would she pick me; I don't have money, a good job, I couldn't possibly win in a situation like this; just forget it. The list continues, by the way.
Hey, it's not your fault! The good news is that our fear about women may have been hard-wired over the ages. Well, that is one theory out there, anyway, and it suggests that this hard-wiring dates back to the caveman days. If you look at this theory, it seems to have some validity. You can test it on your own with any social animal by throwing a third, say, chimp, into a group of other chimps where there is one female of interest. This new chimp will compete with other chimps for her attention and with aggressive animals this new arrival might even lose his life for even trying to attract the female! So, we conflict thanks to our caveman ancestors who might have died to meet women. And since nobody wants conflict in their life, why approach women at all? Why not opt to fly below the radar and let the "right" woman find us?
Nothing EVER Falls In Your Lap; Women are No Exception The biggest downfall with letting women come to us is that it will almost never happen. As men, we need to take action when it comes to finding women. The reason is that, while women's rights have progressed politically, legally, and professionally, they sadly have not progressed all that much socially. Dowries and arranged marriages may not be common in our everyday culture, but a hundred or so years ago they were. And, let's face it, they continue to exist in a lot of today's cultures. So if our fear of approaching women is hard-wired, what have women been hard-wired to believe?
Arranged Marriage? Hmm... that "could" work Most of us cannot rely on our family to hook us up with the type of women we dream of, so we have to do the arranging ourselves. And most women know that they are in the position of power when it comes to deciding whether to let us into their lives. They control whether we are rejected or accepted. They also know that once they let us in, they lose social control over their lives, voluntarily trading in their position as President and CEO for that of co-president and co-chair (at least insofar as their everyday lives are concerned)
Okay, so what's next? The question becomes how do we win a woman's approval and convince her to accept us? The first step is that we must first learn how to comfortably and successfully approach women. After we realize and reprogram our values and beliefs that have been programmed into our head over thousands of years, we can then start seeking, approaching, and winning the true right woman.
Of course, this sounds easier said than done. Because even if you master how to approach women, gaining acceptance is really just the first of many steps! Next, you'll have to learn how to keep her!
Daryl Duke provides advice on a pro bono basis to males on how to Find, Attract, and Keep The Right Woman through information available at no cost at SeductAnyWoman.
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